Monday, April 6, 2015
I've been thinking about honesty lately, actually about how honestly explaining myself has gotten me into more messes in my life than had I been able to tell little white lies that didn't hurt anyone. I never got that gene. I've always operated under the "honesty is the best policy" advice.
The world, however, doesn't turn on honesty. Most people are far more interested in themselves than they are in you (or me) telling the truth about ourselves. It's taken me this long to realize that it's usually just better to make something up than to tell the whole truth. The truth, most times, is probably too much information, and everybody is on information overload these days.
I think it was Winston Churchill who said, "Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip." Diplomacy has never been one of my strong suits.
There is another side to this, though, and that's the aspect of living one's values. Some of my values, especially when I worked, are and were to have integrity, to be just, to try to make a difference, and to aspire to being part of the solution rather than part of the problem. In numerous instances I found myself, because of nature of my role in an organization, to be caught between a rock and a hard place. Opting to uphold those values always got me in trouble, i.e. hated, ostracized, fired.
I couldn't not speak my truth. And not much has changed since then. At the end of day, it always seems that choosing personal integrity over lying is the way for me to go.
Have a good week. xo